Ok, so school is about to begin again. In order to make your child’s year start without a hitch, here are things your teacher won’t tell you, but probably should:
I’m not a marriage counselor.
At parent-teacher conferences, let’s stick to your child’s progress, not how your husband doesn’t help you around the house.
Kids used to go out and play after school…
and resolve problems on their own. Now, with computers and TV, they lack the skills to communicate. They don’t know how to get past hurt feelings without telling the teacher and having her fix it.
When I hear a loud belch,
I remember that a student’s manners are a reflection of his parents’.
Your child may be the center of your universe,
but I have to share mine with 25 others.
Guys who dribble a ball
for a couple of hours a game can make up to $20 million a year. We educate future leaders and make about $42,000 a year.
We take on the role of mother,
father, psychologist, friend, and adviser every day. Plus, we’re watching for learning disabilities, issues at home, peer pressure, drug abuse, and bullying.
Kids dish on your secrets all the time-
money, religion, politics, even Dad’s vasectomy.
Please, no more mugs, frames, or stuffed animals.
A gift card to Starbucks or Office Depot would be more than enough. A thank-you note: even better.
We love snow days
and three-day weekends as much as your kid does.
The students we remember are happy,
respectful, and good-hearted, not necessarily the ones with the highest grades.
You do your job, I’ll do mine.
I have parents who are CEOs of their own companies come in and tell me how to run my classroom. I would never think to go to their office and tell them how to do their jobs.
We don’t arrive at school 10 minutes before your child does.
And we don’t leave the minute they go home. Many of us put in extra hours before and after school.
We are not the enemy.
Parents and teachers really are on the same side.
The truth is simple:
Your kid will lie to get out of trouble.
Encourage your child to keep reading.
That’s key to success in the classroom at any age.
It’s their homework, not yours.
We can tell the difference between a parent helping their child with homework and doing it for them (especially when they’re clueless in class the next day).
We get jaded too.
Teaching is not as joyful as it once was for many of us. Disrespectful students and belligerent parents take a toll on us.
Talk to your kids.
Parents give their kids the pricey gadgets and labels, but what kids really crave is for you to talk to them. Kids want to know you are interested in their lives.
We spend money out of our own pockets.
Teachers often buy things our students need, such as school supplies and even shoes.
Supportive, involved parents are crucial.
But some are “helicopter parents”—they hover too much.
Having the summer off is great, but…
Many of us have to take on extra jobs—teaching summer school, tutoring—to make ends meet.
Nobody says “the dog ate my homework” anymore.
But we hear a lot of “I left it on the kitchen table.” And then Mom will send in a note to back up the story.
Don’t ask us to do your dirty work.
We wish parents would make their kids own up to their actions instead of pressuring us to bend the rules.
We know you mean well, but…
Please stop doing everything for your child and allow them to make mistakes. How else will they learn? Kids are not motivated to succeed because they feel their parents will bail them out every time.
I know these may sound harsh, but someone had to share them with you.
Happy Back to School!